Women naturally fear more than men. It is ingrained in us as babes. We fear spiders and insects. We lock all the doors of our car when driving alone. We fear darkness. People comment, “Don’t be such a girl,” and you know what they’re talking about, right? Fear. Women are creatures of fear.
Then many women, who already fear more than the other half of the population, become mothers. And the fear increases. We don’t just fear for ourselves, we fear for our children. Mothers tend to call it worry because worry sounds endearing. But it’s not. It is insidious fear.
So slipping into both categories; I fear.
Sometimes all day.
And I know I shouldn’t. I know God has not given me a spirit of fear (2 Timothy 1:7). I know the Lord is my light and my salvation (Psalm 27:1). But I still fear.
In my heart I began to deal with my fear of spiders, cockroaches and sharks (okay, so I’m not totally over that one yet -Jaws has a lot to answer for). But within minutes, it was apparent this surface fear was but the tip of the iceburg. Fear had a deeper grip on my life than I recognised. While God wanted to rid me of everyday fear and worry, He also wanted to deal with deeper issues.
Sometimes relationships with other people are driven by fear. We read into what people say because we fear getting hurt, or we fear we will lose what we have.
Sometimes marriage is sabotaged by fear. Thoughts of doubt take over the mind. And a love is tainted, when it should be perfected.
Sometimes dreams are killed by fear. What if I fail? Dreams killed. Right there.
Sometimes hope is lost because of fear. Robbed one day at a time, as change never happens, miracles never surface. And in walk abandonment and pain.
My life overshadowed by fear. No more.
When relationship sirens go off in my head screaming, “Warning, warning. Protect yourself, protect yourself,” I will love, because perfect love expels all fear (1 John 4:18).
When I fear for my marriage, I will hop off the train, for our love is as strong as death (Song of Songs 8:6).
When my dreams scare me I will remind myself that I can do all things through Christ (Philippians 4:13).
When I feel as though nothing is ever going to change, I will choose hope because the hope of the godly will be granted (Proverbs 10:24).
At the end of my rope, I will believe. I will hold on. I will not give up.
Joshua 1:9 Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.
Jesus is with me. Me. Whom shall I fear?
Fear will not have the better of me in 2015. I choose to reverse my gender-stereotype. This is my year of no fear.
Should it be yours? Will you lock the door on fear? Will you refuse to feed doubt? Search the Bible to find scriptures that counteract your fear struggle.
And join me. Let’s rid our lives of fear.
Hit reply or comment if this is your year of no fear. I’d love to hear from you. (Aliza might like to hear from you too.)